I don't think this means not being loving or nurturing or available for you kids. Far from it! But I wonder, what's the middle line, and is there an approach that can combine the best of both worlds.... And so this article is the next input in a line of fascinating ideas. I strongly encourage reading it in its entirety, but here's a quick summary of the main points:
- We need to let 3-year-olds climb trees and 5-year-olds use knives.
- Children can go hungry from time-to-time.
- Instead of keeping children satisfied, we need to fuel their feelings of frustration.
- Children should spend less time in school.
- Thou shalt spoil thy baby.
- Children need to feel obligated.
Pique your interest? Sound outrageous? I know. But the arguments are actually quite compelling.
I admit it would be very difficult for me to parent this way. The more I hear childhood stories from my friends, the more I realize how extraordinarily tame my house was! We were very quiet, very safety-conscious, very proper kids, for the most part. We hardly left the yard, and definitely never wandered the neighborhood alone! I wouldn't say I missed out growing up, and I love a quiet house and a peaceful existence, but I wonder what my childhood might have been like if I'd been...less...grown up from such a young age. Now, it's highly likely that I was the weird one, and my parents' methods had nothing to do with it. But it's something to think about....